my son is 4

[nettie]

hello my son is 4.he has autism,,or should i say that what they think.the school say no,and i know i should listen to the doctor..my son headbutt he may look into my eye for 2 sec.when he was born we could not hold him at all..he learned how to walk about 2 year of agr setup on his butt at 1 1/2 he has always been real slow yes he is 4 year old and still can't talk..trying to get him to go tto the bathroom or get him to take a bath is a chore..he can rock real fast up to 3 hr just depend on how made he is..he act like he can't fell pain.he does have a seizer disorder..now he can only be in it for 1 min because he will stop breathing..he through fits real bad my 5 year old run from him and some time i worry aaabout going to sleep..he has gave mee a black eye whiling sleeping..they have him on med to try to get him under control and to get him tto sleep..before he would sleep for 1 hr and thats all until the next day..we did a test on him and he is about 2 yeaars old still..they say he is still to young to tell where on they line he fall..i have to watch him 24/7 is has no fear of anything,my house is full of locks because he will run out the door in front of they car,,going to the doctors or to the store he scream..half the time i will get kick out of the store..one lady said i should keep him in the house and never let him out,he does not play with anyone,,he love music and and he latches on to stuff and noone is going to get it from him,,,there more but doess anyone have a child like mine..i try he go to his doctors but no one has any answer..they just say he may get worse as he get older..and if hee does i will be there well thanks :confused: :confused:

[elsayednm]

Do not worry, I passed through the same. Is not what he has. But how you are going to deal with him. They are so lovely and sensitive. They love their mother so much as she is the only person who understand and interprets what they want. Forget about the school now. He can`t go to mainstream at this age . Send him to a nursery or Autsitic centre. They are can take care of him better. They can do simple task at this age, cut and paste. sitting tolerance, scrippling, and this is how they start. they need a routine programe. What they have to do otherwise they will be frustrated and diffecult to control. Put a time table for him from the time he wake up till he goes to bed.

e.g:

Wake up 7am
Bath 7:05
Breakfast 7:10
Every day has to follow the same program at the same time with the same sequence till he goes back to bed again. They get worser if they don`t have a program to follow. No routine.

Medication is only under doctor control.

Pls keep in touch and bye for now I will come back.

[kerryallc71]

and then he could not talk properley then.
thomas does not like new things clothes,shoes,hair cutts its a nightmare getting thomas to wear new clothes. and to get new shoes. he never asks to go the shop for any sweets never asks to go to mcdonalds other kids love junk food but not thomas. all he eats is the frys he wont try the mcnuggets or the burgers. thomas still has paddys just like he did when he was young. he tends to lie flat on the sofa and kick his body about. i mean kick his legs about. thomas has had it hard all of his life not understanding people. and people not understanding him. which still frustrates him. hes still fasinated by toy cars. lines them up and everything. i wish i knew more about autism when thomas was younger but all i got told by the schools and doctors was that thomas is delayed. hes had lots of tests about his eating. hes been alder hey at liverpool. and hospitals to see a dietition lots of times hes been on iron medicine numourous blood tests. thomass biggest down fall in his life was when he was at nursery he had a big accident a boy pushed him and he had to have stitches in his head. that shook him up. that set him back a few months. they did say he was delayed at nursery in 1998. but no mention of any disabilty. thomass behaivour was bad. he was very naughty with children. that was because he could not talk and children used to try and take over and boss him around. thomas is still quite good at standing up for him self. but once in a while he gets a bit stuck. thomas is halmless really. hes had a lot to cope with these last 2 and 1/2 years or so. his first little brother was born in 2003 then his first little sister was born in 2004. so hes having a struddle at the moment. edward thomass first little brother now 2 years old. hes having trouble with thomas thomas tends not to be a nice big brother. we think this is to do with thomass autism. do any of you know if there is any help. out there i live in the united kingdom ( cheshire ).

i would really love a bit of help from others in my position. talk more later.