Son and puberty???

[nick33]

I have a 13 yrs old autistic son who is going through puberty.
This is an area that I am totally in the dark.
If anyone out there has some advice please let me know.


nick33

[lucysmom]

Adolescents with Autism are actually alot like their "normal" peers. (they can drive you crazy).

Behavior can certainly become an issue when the little guy you used to be able to manage is bigger than you. I can imagine what "I don't want to put socks on" looks like.

Is there something specific going on? Have you consulted with his physician? What do his teachers say about the changes?

[nick33]

it's just crazy sometimes
he is getting bigger than me. Sometimes it just like it's anything and everything I do is wrong.



nick33

[Carrie]

There are several great books I've looked at - some of them are on the future horizons website. Ive picked them up thinking i would get them but my son is still so young yet i figure there will be others by the time he reaches puberty. I'm dreading it though. Puberty....yechhhh!

[nick33]

It's here for me.
I thought it would be o.k.
Lately, I have been on egg shells.
Yesterday, he came home normal. Ate dinner normal. Then he ask for a pickle, an item that he could eat all day long if I given the chance. I told him, no.
well that's when the fireworks started. He got upset and started to yell at me, telling me shut-up. That I can handle. Then he started to hit me on my shoulder and arms, then on my head. I redirected him and told me, he was going on "time-out" he started again with the hitting. It was horrible. He finally stoppped once I grabbed his hands and told me once again that," he was not to hit Mom." I was in total shock that he would do this. :eek:
I spoke with a friend of mine, she use to be my son's teacher when he was in grade school, she told me to contact the school and see if an in-home trainning class can be done.
Let me also mention to you that I have a younger son. When he stated hitting, my younger son locked himself in his room. He told me that he was afraid that he was going to hit him too.
I am sorry that I wrote so much its just that I feel like I have to vent to someone.

nick33

[lucysmom]

I think that you are surely eligble for Theraputic Support in your home. Depending on where you live - your son's school, pediatrician or Intermediate Unit should be able to point you in the right direction to begin the process. If you get a good match in this person for your family, the results can be phenomenal. Sometimes just having another person around to support you can be tremendously helpful.

It's a shame that your younger son was fearful but you could turn that into a positive for him (your younger son) by complimenting him on removing himself from the situation. Reminding him that he shouldn't necessarily be fearful but can "get out of harm's way" when his older brother is so upset.

[nick33]

Thanks,

I planning on calling the school on Monday. I'm calling an ARD. To set up an in home trainning class or something like that. I am a single mom. I do have a male friend, but at the time he wasn't there.
I am hoping to have a better week.
thanks for hearing me out. I would like to put you on my buddy list????
or maybe I can private message you????


thanks
nick33

[lucysmom]

Of course.

[nick33]

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Thanks
that's nice to know

nick33 :)