I think my friend is blinded by the truth

[concerned friend]

I am here mainly for my best friend Carol. I have reason to believe that her 3 year old son may have autisum. His vocabulary is scarce he sounds more like babble than talk. He is extremly unruly and acts as though he is deaf. Very violent to his older and younger sibilings. He isn;t potty trained and i don't think he wants to be he has gone so far as to turd on the floor in front of his family just after they asked him if he had to go. As a baby he never made the normal baby noises he was silent almost a scary kind of silent. For no unexplained reason he will burt into fits of rage that will last half an hour or so. He only eats peanut butter sandwiches for 2 months straight now! He constantly takes his baby brothers soother and hides them when carol put tabasco sauce on the soothers to prevent him from taking them it never fased him. I asked if he has had his hearing tested and she says his hearing is fine. My friend has taken him to a speech therapist and lies about his progress I know this because I have heard this child talk and I can't understand a word. She says he just doesn't want to talk how can any one make that assesment? I am afraid our friendship will end over this I see her behavior as neglectful she sees mine as nosey. Her oldest son has mild ADD as she has said could it be that she doesn't want another one of her kids to have a problem? Or am I wrong in assuming this? I have never met anyone with autism i just began researching this when some of the signs pointed to it.

[AutMom]

Denial is fairly common among parents.
Hopefully the speech therapist will be of some help to this child...

[Dad by 3]

[QUOTE=AutMom]Denial is fairly common among parents.
Hi AutMom,

I can attest to this statement, it took me awhile to admit that my son had Aspergers. My wife all along was much better with this than me. Instead, I just believed it was a stage he would "grow out of".
Well, to make a long story short, he hasn't, I've accepted it, and I know that my acceptance has helped make his life better.

[kelemt]

Hello I do feel badly that you are in the situation that you are in. My son has autism and I also have had the same problem with my husband. He feels and felt that this was just a stage. I tried explaining that the stage has lasted three years and that he is only three and a half. Sometimes people are afraid of the unknown. I am still afraid somedays. What you are saying sounds like it may be autism I have gone through many simiar things with my son. Maybe you can get some information and discuss it with her, you have to understand though that this is something that will be very hard for her. I think that as a friend that might be all that you can do unless there is someone else that you can talk to. Good Luck

[Bethintx]

Truth told with love can be hard, but needs to be done. Think of the child.

If he's autistic he needs special help. If he's deaf he needs special help. If he's bipolar, he needs help, if he's "normal" and behaving this way and doesn't want to talk, he needs help!

Just my humble opinion.


Bethintx